How To Be Successful In Life
Know that you are not crazy. Depression is a real illness and should be afforded the same respect as any other disease. It is your body telling you that something is wrong, whether it is a chemical imbalance in the brain or unresolved emotions. Depression is your body’s way of telling you that it is becoming overwhelmed and needs help.
We had begun marriage counseling, in conjunction with his mental health counseling. He was being treated for depression at this point. I did feel at many times in these counseling sessions that I got more out of out of them, because I put so much more into them. He hated the intrusion into our lives as he sometimes called counseling. He forgot this was his depression and sometimes refused to go. I would just reschedule his appointments. He was misdiagnosed as having depression and crazy but when things continued to deteriorate, further we got the early onset of Alzheimer’s.
They will tell you over and over that you are their savior and you wonder why this incredible person hasn’t already found the love of his/her life. And you are thanking your lucky stars for the relationship. There is an irony though, they actually have little or no self worth. They build and improve their self worth on their relationship with you. And even a stranger irony is that you too might easily build and improve your self worth based on having this relationship.
In one way we’re uncomfortable with what is too much at one time and too much good feedback – our consciences doubt the sincerity of the feedback and what this is saying at a deeper level is we doubt ourselves. We also don’t want to be pushed past our limits. What is good is sometimes too good.
Another good coping technique is to take the opportunity to look at things from a fresh point of view. Try looking at things from a different perspective and you’ll perhaps see that it wasn’t the end of the world that you thought it was. Try and see what possible good may come from the situation and that you may have something good to offer someone new. What qualities could you offer that new person in your life? Almost certainly, there’s someone new out there who’ll appreciate you for who you are and all you need to do is wait for them to appear.
And we often have to come back to it. Why should we otherwise be swayed to believe about ourselves some divergent sense of falsehood; this often knocking the creative breath out of us as if we were winded, stammering for inspiration whilst clamouring on canvas.
The state of our health is closely tied to our sense of confidence and worth – too closely tied. Our society tends to glorify the healthy. Worse even than vilifying the sick, we render them invisible. Perhaps there is some deeply ingrained survival-of-the-fittest instinct at work here, but i think it is time we put it to rest.
Those whose “something” was the excuse for hatred have benefited from his support for the family and Medical Leave Act, the Fair Housing Act Amendments of 1988, the Disabilities Education Act, the family Opportunity Act, and mental health parity legislation. Now we have the Genetic Information Nondiscrimination Act. Now every polling place is accessible thanks to the Help America Vote Act. Perhaps, in his memory, we will have an act that will expose and indemnify hate crimes against the disabled. Perhaps in his name we will someday have decent health care.